As you get older, you may find yourself wanting to jump back into the dating pool. However, if you haven’t dated in a long time, this can be a major source of stress. If you’re nervous about starting to date again, there are a few steps you can take to make sure the process is as smooth and enjoyable as possible.
Decide What Feels Comfortable
When you date, you make the rules, and that includes deciding what you want out of the relationships you pursue. Are you looking for something long-term? Are you just trying to find a casual relationship or meet new people? Do you want something physically out of a relationship?
These are all boundaries you can think about ahead of time to make dates feel more comfortable. Most importantly, be open and up front about the things that matter most to you. And when the other person answers, be sure to listen to what they’re saying.
Don’t Rush Into It
We all know someone who hates being single, but it’s a good idea to meet a person in public a few times until you really feel you know them well. Instead of rushing into putting a label on your relationship, take the time to really get to know the person.
Whether romantic or not, most people have faced relationship challenges throughout their lives. For seniors who are getting back to dating after the death of a spouse or a painful divorce, these relationships can cast a shadow over your future relationships. Instead of making comparisons, try to think of dates as a fresh start.
Remember to Have Fun
If you’re seeing someone but aren’t having fun, chances are your relationship isn’t cut out for the long term. Instead, look for someone who shares your interests and who you can have fun with. Though dating may have changed over the years, the goal of finding love and happiness hasn’t. Mutual interests and having fun are a great place to start looking.
Having fun should be your top priority when you start dating again. Leave past relationships in the past—you’re not trying to replace a past partner, but forge a new and meaningful connection. Don’t think love isn’t for you anymore, or that your time has passed. Finding love is exciting at any age. Plus, even though many dating norms have changed, it’s easier than ever to dip your toes back into the dating pool. This is especially true with the rise of online dating, so don’t be afraid to start wading back in!